I’m only vulnerable if there is a truth I need to speak and also knowing that others out there can relate. It is about finding that balance between sharing too much and not sharing enough.
I’m only vulnerable if there is a truth I need to speak and also knowing that others out there can relate. It is about finding that balance between sharing too much and not sharing enough.
I think that's what Trudie wanted to address. Finding the balance is crucial. Many are afraid of sharing their messy stories. I know people started sharing parts of their messy life story and then were harassed for doing so and stopped writing.
Glad Substack and Medium are save spaces to be vulnerable.
For me it's a fine line. I often also have the feeling there's a truth I need to speak but then I go one step back and also myself if I really want to share this story with the world. I don't want to offend anyone from my friend or family. When I started writing I shared a story about the infertility story of a friend and how it affected me in my pregnancy. Although I didn't mention her name she knew it was about her and she stopped talking with me entirely. Before she simply didn't talk with me about anything pregnancy related (wich was hard for me, but I did it for her). This story was the end of our friendship and so I think twice before I share anything.
Long story 😆 think daring to be vulnerable when writing online is important to talk about. There's not right ways it's Trudie's approach. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Miriam. Form your writing and the topics like Träume you cover I know you open up about your past and present. That's brave ❤️
Oh Kristina that must have been hard for you, and your friend. I find this happens for me when I mention my children - consent is something I’ve had to consider hard. Even when I’ve been interviewed in the news and they ask ages of kids - I’ve had to say I’m sorry but some of my children asked me not to slap their personal details in the public domain! This means the papers can get disappointed but hey I care about my children.
You mention Substack being safe to be vulnerable. It’s not uniformly safe one but. There’s quite a lot of hate comments/DMs etc. I just wrote a piece about haters the other day.
Hi Danusia, how are you? So I look up what people say on other forums like Reddit or Quora as many share the same sentiments.. for example the not glorious facts about special needs parenting. That shows I’m not alone so I can discuss it out in the open knowing it will reach someone. But the sad fact people will judge too and you have to accept that. But you need to find that line between being vulnerable enough to reach someone who can empathize or better yet truly understand and just tossing dirty laundry.
I’m only vulnerable if there is a truth I need to speak and also knowing that others out there can relate. It is about finding that balance between sharing too much and not sharing enough.
Yes, I agree. It is hard to find the balance, and I have definitely got it wrong sometimes! We're all here to learn, ultimately.
Yup we are and same here
I think that's what Trudie wanted to address. Finding the balance is crucial. Many are afraid of sharing their messy stories. I know people started sharing parts of their messy life story and then were harassed for doing so and stopped writing.
Glad Substack and Medium are save spaces to be vulnerable.
For me it's a fine line. I often also have the feeling there's a truth I need to speak but then I go one step back and also myself if I really want to share this story with the world. I don't want to offend anyone from my friend or family. When I started writing I shared a story about the infertility story of a friend and how it affected me in my pregnancy. Although I didn't mention her name she knew it was about her and she stopped talking with me entirely. Before she simply didn't talk with me about anything pregnancy related (wich was hard for me, but I did it for her). This story was the end of our friendship and so I think twice before I share anything.
Long story 😆 think daring to be vulnerable when writing online is important to talk about. There's not right ways it's Trudie's approach. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Miriam. Form your writing and the topics like Träume you cover I know you open up about your past and present. That's brave ❤️
Kristina, that's tough. I'm sorry you lost a friendship :(
Oh Kristina that must have been hard for you, and your friend. I find this happens for me when I mention my children - consent is something I’ve had to consider hard. Even when I’ve been interviewed in the news and they ask ages of kids - I’ve had to say I’m sorry but some of my children asked me not to slap their personal details in the public domain! This means the papers can get disappointed but hey I care about my children.
You mention Substack being safe to be vulnerable. It’s not uniformly safe one but. There’s quite a lot of hate comments/DMs etc. I just wrote a piece about haters the other day.
I really enjoyed todays article.
Hey Miriam, long time no speak 💞
I’m curious. How do you know others will relate? What happens if you feel or experience something you’ve never heard anyone write or talk about?
Hi Danusia, how are you? So I look up what people say on other forums like Reddit or Quora as many share the same sentiments.. for example the not glorious facts about special needs parenting. That shows I’m not alone so I can discuss it out in the open knowing it will reach someone. But the sad fact people will judge too and you have to accept that. But you need to find that line between being vulnerable enough to reach someone who can empathize or better yet truly understand and just tossing dirty laundry.